I could type pages on this one, but I’ll spare the readers. Most write better than I do anyway so I’m interested in their thoughts.

As for me, as soon as we meet, I throw up a wall until I can trust whomever you say you are. I also look for clues as to who they really are, not who they say they are.

For girls, I look for red flags like hair dyed in an unnatural color, excessive piercings (or one in the nose), too many tattoos (more than one hidden one. Most of all, check her friends and family. Crazy girlfriends means your petite petunia is likely been run through by a lot of dudes. Body count matters a lot too. No matter what, even if you are a way better guy, you are compared to the past.

For Guys, there is a line between confidence and cockiness. It can be smudged at first, but it shows itself. I don’t mind an Alpha male, as long as he’s decent to others. There is always a bigger fish.

Being an introvert, anyone who talks too much small talk instead of substantive conversation is kept on the sidelines. I just can’t listen to drivel for the sake of talking. Introverts will understand this.

The first line to break a relationship for me isn’t lying, everyone does that. It’s loyalty. That is like virginity, you can only lose it once. Once it is gone, our relationship is stalled probably where it started. So far, no one has gotten a second chance. I’ll never really trust you again, despite my best efforts.

The biggest thing I learned was to not talk back immediately, say no early and often to most things, and don’t commit to doing things you know you don’t want to do. That has saved me more time from the suck portion of life than almost anything.

Like I said, I can go on, and on, but that would just be a continuation of the life of an introvert.

I’d rather read what you have to say