How often do you say “no” to things that would interfere with your goals?
I’ve only learned later in life to prioritize myself for my mental sanity. A lot of my life growing up was not saying no enough it was a price I paid while growing up.
The goal I think of here is trying to set boundaries. If I’d have done it earlier in life, a lot of crap I deal with now wouldn’t be still bothering me.
Delusions of Adequacy 
Years ago as a junior officer in the Navy back in the 60s, I developed the “No” philosophy for decisions that looked shady or overcomplex or just fargin silly.
Struck me that “No” could be changed to “Yes” when more data became available, but changing an initial “Yes” to “No” makes you look like an asshole.
You tell guys “O.K., you can go ahead with that plan, or that party, or that project” and then realize they haven’t done their homework and it’s gonna be a budget nightmare or a legal can of worms, you’re suddenly the scapegoat for their problems, the bad guy who killed their fun.
Tell ’em “No” and then do some lookin into it and find out it’s NOT a problem, you can do an about face and everybody’s happy.
Of course there are times when certain personality types just have comprehension issues with “No,” just can’t see why you said it and why you’re being such a prick about it.
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