“Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.” – H. L. Mencken
Let’s face it, a first date is like a job interview. You put on a persona of yourself that is the best version of you. It takes a long time to find out who the other person really is. While this is happening, both people are playing a video of what they think is going on and how good it is, until it isn’t or you get into a long term relationship. At that point, you find out that the other person farts and looks like hell in the morning. The other warts come out and then it becomes does the costs of this person outweigh the benefits.
Fortunately, there is someone for everyone and hopefully that someone has enough patience to put up with your bag of crap that you have (or you put up with theirs).
Either way, it is imagination that makes the heart grow fonder, not distance.