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Feeling Drained? Here Are 12 Signs You Have an Introvert Hangover

An introvert hangover can leave you feeling exhausted, making you want nothing more than to escape to a quiet place alone.

Does this sound familiar?

You’ve spent the whole day with your friends or family. You’ve had a great time eating, playing games, and catching up. But now, you’re so exhausted you can barely see straight, while everyone else seems as energetic as ever. In fact, they’re already setting up the next game as you’re wondering how you can slip out the door.

The next day, after the event is over, is no better. You might have a headache, and your body may feel sore and drained, almost like the onset of the flu. You’re tired — so very tired.

If this resonates with you, you might be experiencing something we call an “introvert hangover.”

What Is the Introvert Hangover?

Introvert, Dear writer Shawna Courter coined the term “introvert hangover” in this article to describe the exhaustion she felt after celebrating Christmas with her in-laws. She writes:

“An introvert hangover is a pretty terrible thing to experience. It starts with an actual physical reaction to overstimulation. Your ears might ring, your eyes start to blur, and you feel like you’re going to hyperventilate. Maybe your palms sweat. And then your mind feels like it kind of shuts down, building barriers around itself as if you had been driving on a wide open road, and now you’re suddenly driving in a narrow tunnel. All you want is to be at home, alone, where it’s quiet.”

Yes, the introvert hangover is real. It’s a funny term that describes the serious social burnout many introverts experience, marked by significant mental and physical fatigue.

Here are 12 signs that you might have an introvert hangover, which I discuss in more detail in my book, The Secret Lives of Introverts. You don’t need to experience all these symptoms to have one, and your symptoms might vary.

Signs of an Introvert Hangover

1. Every little thing gets on your nerves.

When you have an introvert hangover, even small annoyances can overwhelm you. Normally, you might brush off a sarcastic comment from your partner or stay calm when you misplace your keys — but not in this state. An introvert hangover can make it feel as though your head is so full it might burst, leaving no room for even the smallest extra bit of information. Because you’re so tired, you may find it hard to control your emotions.

2. You struggle to make decisions.

Even small decisions become difficult. Paper or plastic? Pumpkin pie or cherry? Normally, these choices wouldn’t be hard, but when you have an introvert hangover, your brain is so tired that it doesn’t function properly. For bigger issues, you might find yourself obsessively thinking about the situation to the point of frustration. You’re searching for that one piece of information that will show the right way forward, but because you’re so exhausted, your mind can’t focus enough to find it.

3. You can’t think clearly.

Similar to the previous point, you’re so tired that it feels like your mind is processing everything in slow motion. You might struggle to recall details of things you should easily know, like your daily schedule, where you left your phone, or even common passwords.

4. Your speech changes.

You might speak slower, with unusually long pauses between your words. Sometimes, you might use words that are close to what you mean but not quite right — for instance, “dessert” becomes “candy” and “where’s my coat” becomes just a vague gesture. You might even seem a bit intoxicated, even if you haven’t had much or any alcohol. You might slur your words together, mispronounce them, or both.

5. You feel physically unwell.

Some introverts report experiencing headaches, muscle aches, upset stomachs, or other physical symptoms.

6. You’re tired.

Like, really tired. It feels like you’ve just finished an intense workout at the gym. If someone offered you a quiet spot to nap, you’d accept it immediately. After the social event, you find yourself collapsing on the couch, skipping your usual evening routine, or heading straight to bed.

7. You’re zoning out.

You find it hard to focus. Someone might be speaking, but you’re not absorbing their words. Your expression may appear blank, sad, or even angry, but you’re not necessarily upset. Your mind is simply wandering, perhaps lost in thought or daydreaming.

8. You feel anxious.

For some, an introvert hangover can intensify their anxiety. In social situations, they might feel particularly nervous, worried about how others perceive them and concerned they might say or do the wrong thing. They may also find themselves overthinking a particular decision, unable to escape an anxious thought spiral due to their fatigue.

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9. You feel depressed.

An introvert hangover can also trigger feelings of depression. You might find yourself overwhelmed by pessimism and cynicism, questioning past decisions, and experiencing dark thoughts. Everything in life may seem bleak or not okay.

10. You’re not acting like yourself.

You might be quieter or not as cheerful as usual. Something seems off, and those close to you are likely to pick up on it.

11. You can’t handle small talk anymore.

When you’re experiencing an introvert hangover at a social event, you might find it hard to keep up with conversations. You’ve run out of small talk. Your mind is just too tired to think of anything polite or interesting to say.

12. You have an intense desire to be alone.

When you’re dealing with an introvert hangover, all you crave is solitude. Whether it’s sneaking off to the bathroom during a social gathering or cozying up in your pajamas afterward, you just need some time for yourself. For introverts, there’s nothing quite like the comfort of being alone after a hectic day or social gathering.

What Causes an Introvert Hangover?

Research shows that everyone eventually gets tired from socializing, including extroverts. Socializing requires energy, and after a while, everyone reaches their limit. However, introverts experience social burnout more quickly and intensely.

Why is this the case? Introverts are generally more sensitive to noise and other forms of stimulation compared to extroverts. Their dopamine systems are less active, meaning that an overload of dopamine — the “feel good” neurotransmitter — can leave them feeling tired and overstimulated. In contrast, extroverts often feel energized by the same levels of dopamine, which can help them push past social fatigue.

To learn more about why introverts need time alone and why they get easily drained from socializing, click here.

The Cure for an Introvert Hangover

The best way to recover from an introvert hangover is to spend time alone in a peaceful, quiet environment. Do your favorite self-care activities or hobbies — anything that helps uplift your mood and energy. For introverts, solitude is as essential as food and water.

If you can’t be completely alone, look for small ways to take a break. You could listen to soothing music with headphones, go for a walk, or find a quiet corner to read. Even short breaks can make a difference.

As introverts, we might feel pressured to fit into a society that often values extroverted behavior. You might worry that prioritizing your needs could inconvenience others or hurt their feelings. This pressure can lead you to hide or deny what you really need, causing more stress.

Remember that your needs as an introvert are valid. It’s perfectly okay to leave a party early or to spend time alone. Your needs are real and deserve respect.

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The holiday season is here. It’s the worst 2 months of the year for me. What is telling is that as soon as the presents are opened, people go right back to the other 10 months of the year.

I cringed when I saw the decorations for sale in September, and they started going up 50 days before Christmas near me. My energy started draining on the spot

For Introverts: 7 Signs Your Social Battery Is Running Low

In social settings, the introvert brain is busy processing every word and detail, which explains why it can feel so exhausting.

If you’re an introvert like me, the idea of being around a large group of people can feel overwhelming in a way that extroverts just don’t understand. If you get anxious just thinking about concerts, networking events, or even holiday parties, you’re not alone.

Spending too much time around people can lead to what’s called an “introvert hangover.” I’ve experienced this many times myself, but over the years, I’ve learned how to recognize the signs —

7 Signs Your Social Battery Is Running Low

1. You just don’t feel like talking.

Even if it’s someone you normally enjoy chatting with, when you just don’t feel like engaging in conversation, it may be a sign that you need alone time ASAP.

The introverted brain processes information more deeply, which means socializing can take more mental energy than it does for extroverts.

When we’re in a social setting, our brain is working overtime to take in all the conversations, stimuli, and dynamics happening around us. It’s no wonder this can be exhausting.

That’s why introverts need time alone to recharge our batteries and regain the energy drained during social interactions. Without it, we simply won’t feel like chatting!

2. You second-guess everything you say.

When you try to engage in conversation but feel like your words are coming out all wrong, it may be a sign that your brain is running on empty and needs some downtime to recharge.

When you’re constantly second-guessing yourself or worrying about how you’re being perceived, it adds even more strain to your mental reserves.

Bottom line: For introverts, processing information and managing our own thoughts and feelings at the same time can lead to decision fatigue.

3. The thought of being around people makes you anxious.

If the idea of interacting with others makes your palms sweat and your stomach churn, it’s a clear sign you may need to take a break from socializing until your energy levels return.

For introverts, being around people can be mentally exhausting, especially if we feel like we have to be “on” or put on a persona that doesn’t feel natural.

We also tend to prefer meaningful, one-on-one conversations over small talk or large group interactions, which can quickly drain our social battery.

4. You start zoning out during conversations.

Do your eyes glaze over when someone starts talking? That could be a sign your brain has reached its limit for social interaction and is craving peace and quiet.

Because social interaction consumes energy, the constant pressure to stay engaged, think of responses, and keep up with conversations can quickly become overwhelming. Eventually, the mental fatigue catches up, and we just zone out.

5. Your temper is shorter than usual.

It’s hard not to snap at people when all you really want is some quiet time to yourself. This can happen before you even realize your brain and body are overdue for a break.

For introverts, socializing can be stressful. As a result, our patience runs thin, and we may become easily frustrated or irritated. Suddenly, it feels like everyone and everything is getting under our skin.

6. You have trouble sleeping.

When our brains are overstimulated, it can keep us awake at night with racing thoughts.

Of course, difficulty sleeping can be caused by many things — from medical conditions to hormonal changes — but it can also be a sign of an introvert hangover.

Since we introverts burn through more energy while socializing, the aftermath can leave us feeling wired but tired. That “buzzed” feeling makes it harder to settle down and drift off.

If this sounds familiar, try carving out some extra downtime before bed — like reading a good book, journaling, or taking a warm bath — to help calm your mind. The key to healing your overstimulated brain is to get those zzz’s back on track.

7. You crave alone time.

This one comes as no surprise! If all you want is to escape the constant chatter and noise, chances are an introvert hangover is on its way.

While society often stigmatizes spending time alone, for introverts it’s a natural and necessary part of life. Alone time helps us recharge, feel refreshed, and show up as our best selves.

So take a look at your calendar and schedule solo time like it’s a non-negotiable appointment. It could be as simple as going for a walk, meditating, or journaling — whatever helps you reset.

Rest of the article and how to prevent this here, although I can’t prevent it.