I asked a Facebook group of 58,000 women to tell me their biggest dating app red flags.
What is one thing on a man’s dating profile that will instantly make you swipe left or un-match?
I got hundreds of responses, but they all boiled down to the same seven answers.
And — perhaps surprisingly — none of them had anything to do with looks, height or holding a fish.
So let’s get to it.
7. Kids In Photos
This doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t want to date a man who has children. They just feel it’s irresponsible to put your child’s face on a dating app.
“I understand loving your children and making it very clear that they are a part of your life,” one woman wrote. “But also, it’s an app where hundreds of people can just access your stuff and keep on keeping on. Like I’ve seen what people do to grown women’s posts on the Internet. I would never put a picture of my child on Tinder or any other app.”
6. Photos With Women
Other than maybe your mom.
One time, a guy told me he includes photos of himself with hot girls on his dating profile because it sends a subliminal message that he’s a catch “since he can get hot women.”
And if that’s not the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard, it’s in the top 10.
Just like your wife or girlfriend doesn’t want to look at pictures of you with your ex, potential matches don’t want to feel like it’s a competition before they’ve even gone on a first date.
5. Can’t Hold A Conversation
I think one of the reasons dating apps could not keep my interest is because many of the men simply could not hold a stimulating conversation.
Just an endless stream of, Hey, wyd? Sup? How was your day? over and over again until we both lose interest and quit talking to each other.
I’d say about 99 percent of dating app matches never make it out of the chat.
4. “Not Into Drama”
This was a new one for me, but A LOT of women said it. So clearly, it’s a common line on men’s dating profiles.
“If he has ‘not into drama’ in his bio, it means he IS the drama,” one woman wrote.
Apparently a lot of men also don’t like women who “take themselves seriously.”
3. They Want To Talk On Snapchat
“What’s your snap?”
Three words that will make any woman’s eyes roll to the back of her head — and not in a fun way.
If a grown man only wants to communicate on Snapchat, he is in a relationship or married. Every single time. You might as well write “I’m a cheater” on your forehead and call it a day.
2. Shirtless Photos
This one was my answer, and I’m glad to see I’m not alone. Because this got the second-most mentions out of all the red flags.
A fundamental difference between men and women: If a very hot woman posts a half naked selfie on a dating app, every single man is swiping right. If a very hot man posts a shirtless mirror selfie on a dating app, women are repulsed.
The shirtless mirror selfie (or maybe worse, the pulling-up-my-shirt-to-show-my-abs selfie) is the dead giveaway of douchery. I don’t care if the guy is built like a renaissance statue — I want nothing to do with the level of narcissism he brings to the table.
And — drum roll — the No. 1 answer from the Facebook group. The BIGGEST red flag…
1. Getting Sexual Too Quickly
The ladies have spoken.
If a man immediately starts talking about sex or — God forbid — sends an unsolicited dick pic, it’s game over.
“Not only is it annoying if a guy goes immediately to sex, but it also tells me he’s talking like that to any woman who will entertain it,” one woman wrote.
Just so the men know: If a woman has ever played along with your sexting, then she really likes you. Because that does nothing for us. Dudes get so worked up and horny when they’re sexting. Meanwhile, she’s in the kitchen microwaving noodles in her baggy flannel jammies.
on the other hand, too many piercings, lots of tattoos, unnatural hair dye, a lot of cats, overly emotional outbursts, and being a feminist are red flags the other way. If they generalize that “all men are”, your clue is that all men should be out of there.
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